Divorcing Debt

How marriage changed my relationship with money

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Partners or Roommates?

According to a 2019 Pew Research Center survey of nearly 10,000 American adults, nearly 78 percent of married respondents said they feel closer to their spouse than any other adult in their life — compared with just 55 percent of cohabiters. And, when it came to the driving factors behind the decision to cohabit or get married, nearly 40 percent of cohabiters cited finances as a primary reason for moving into together. Perhaps more revealing, two-thirds of cohabiters who want to get married someday cite either their own or their partner’s finances as a reason why they have not gotten engaged or married.

Source: Pew Research Center

Champagne Tastes on a Korbel Budget

My partner and I have been together for a decade next year and while we are so very different in so many ways, we have one very classic thing in common: Like many American Millennials, we have a habit of living beyond our means.

The Money Relationship

As a child, money was always tight. As a landman in the oil and gas industry, my father made a life of volatility and futures. This became even more true when he began to trade work — a self-prescribed treatment for his manic depression — for alcohol, drugs, and binge spending.

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Find a Sponsor, Work the Steps

Breaking up with debt is like deleting the number of your sexy ex who has crawled back to tell you that you were right all along and they can’t live without you.

Source: Margaret Austin Photography

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